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10 Ways New Parents Can Ask For Help


10 Ways New Parents Can Ask For Help


1. Clarify what you need

Real talk: Amidst the stressors of the parenthood transition, we’re not always thinking with perfect clarity. Running on fumes and up to your ears in dirty onesies, you may feel shadowed by a vague cloud of to-dos. In order to get the most useful assistance, first, try cutting through the chaos with a simple writing activity. Make a list of everything that feels overwhelming, then sort it into categories of highest to lowest priority.


2. Keep your to-do list handy

Keeping a physical list on hand won’t just help you sort through your thoughts, it’ll give direction for others.


3. Don’t be afraid to follow up

Reaching out once is hard enough. Doing it a second time can feel even more uncomfortable. So when the friend who said she’d clean for you doesn’t show or a meal delivery goes missing, you may feel timid about following up – but don’t be! Try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes: Wouldn’t you want to know if you dropped the ball on helping a friend?


4. Use a meal service template… but not just for meals

Websites like Meal Train and Take Them a Meal are fabulous for coordinating home-cooked dinners from family and friends. Surprisingly, their helpfulness can go beyond meatloaf and casserole.

These types of templates can schedule all sorts of services from loved ones, from chores to babysitting. You might even use them to express things that are hard to say in person.


5. Experiment with other supportive online platforms

These days, there’s no shortage of apps and websites intended to lighten new parents’ loads. Consider letting one of them digitize your baby-related needs.

Online communication may even be the best way of staying on the same page with your partner, especially if you have busy schedules.


6. Choose someone to delegate for you

When you feel self-conscious about reaching out, how about identifying someone who can make requests on your behalf?

7. Use social media (wisely)

As you’ve probably learned from experience, social media can be a blessing and a curse. This is no less true when it comes to feeling supported after the baby’s arrival.


8. Outsource your needs

Sites like Task Rabbit let you search a database of folks who want nothing more than to help you out with household tasks for a little cash. If budget allows, this type of here-and-there help could be your ticket to less stress.


9. Try a support group

For anyone with less-than-perfect relationships with family, it may be easier to share burdens with those outside our immediate circle. These groups can be found for every new-parent issue from breastfeeding to babywearing. It never hurts to spend time with folks in the same boat as you. You also never know what helpful doors a support group might open.


10. Reach out to a professional

Lactation consultants, pediatricians, and family therapists exist for a reason. With certain post-baby issues, help from friends and family can only take you so far. Perhaps it’s time to get in touch with a professional. For questions about baby care or feeding, don’t hesitate to check in with your baby’s doctor.

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